Well I almost did it again. I almost got angry and overwhelmed based on my own feelings and my own perspective, with no consideration for his. I decided to do some cleaning and rearranging of things in the home office. I began to get angry when I looked at the assortment of electronic equipment that seems to have no purpose, yet I was the one stuck dealing with them.
I had to physically stop myself, take a deep breath and say out loud: ‘these items may be a pain in my backside at this moment, but they are a physical representation of his lost dreams’. When he collected them, they had a purpose in his mind and in his heart. He has now decided that he can’t keep all his dreams, so some of these will have to go. It was a very sobering moment, and it was very hard to remind myself that I am the one who needs the work.